As parents, we all want the best for our children, ensuring they grow up healthy in every way - physically, emotionally and relationally. However, it can sometimes be challenging to distinguish between typical childhood behavior and signs that your child may need professional help. Early intervention can make a significant difference in your child's well-being. 

An analogy that really struck a chord with me is the concept that everyone falls ill from time to time, even those who are generally healthy. However, while most people recover, ongoing or recurrent illness might indicate an underlying, more serious issue. Similarly, children can go through periods of sadness, anxiety, or behavioral changes, which are normal and often temporary. But if these symptoms persist or intensify, it could be a sign of a deeper emotional or psychological concern that needs attention. Just as we seek medical help for physical ailments that don't resolve, it's important to consider professional support for mental health issues that don't seem to improve on their own.

Here are five key indicators that your child may benefit from therapy.

1. Persistent Sadness or Withdrawal

It's normal for children to experience sadness or mood swings, but persistent feelings of sadness or withdrawal from activities they once enjoyed could be a sign of something more serious. If your child seems consistently unhappy, disinterested in playing, or isolates themselves from friends and family, it may be time to seek help from a therapist.

2. Changes in Behavior or Personality

Sudden changes in your child's behavior or personality can be a red flag. This might include increased aggression, frequent tantrums, or drastic shifts in their mood. If your once calm child becomes easily angered or if you notice them acting out in ways that are uncharacteristic, it’s important to explore these changes with a professional.

3. Difficulty in School

Struggles in school, whether academic or social, can be a sign that your child is dealing with underlying issues. Difficulty concentrating, a sudden drop in grades, or frequent visits to the school nurse can indicate emotional or psychological distress. Additionally, if your child is experiencing bullying or having trouble making friends, a therapist can provide support and strategies to cope with these challenges.

4. Physical Complaints with No Clear Cause

Children often express emotional distress through physical symptoms. Frequent headaches, stomachaches, or other unexplained aches and pains can be a child’s way of communicating anxiety or depression. If these symptoms persist and your pediatrician cannot find a medical cause, it may be beneficial to consult with a mental health professional.

5. Trauma or Major Life Changes

Significant events such as the loss of a loved one, divorce, or moving to a new city can be particularly challenging for children to process. These events can trigger a range of emotions and behavioral changes. If your child has experienced a traumatic event or a major life change and is struggling to cope, therapy can provide a safe space for them to express their feelings and develop coping mechanisms.

Seeking Help

Recognizing the signs that your child may need therapy is the first step towards helping them navigate their emotions and challenges. If you notice any of these indicators, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Early intervention can provide your child with the tools they need to manage their feelings and thrive both emotionally and socially. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength and a proactive step in supporting your child’s mental health.

Rachel Lund started Self Space out of the deep belief in the power of therapy to change people’s lives from the inside out. Her hope is to help people find more safety, care and love in their lives. Rachel is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Clinical Supervisor in Washington state, and focuses on treating clients through a neuropsychotherapy approach to therapy that connects mind+body.